9 ways to deal with homesickness
No matter how excited you are to be starting university, it's natural to feel a bit homesick sometimes. We've got some great tips on how to get through it.
Moving away for university is a big transition, whether you've come from the other side of the world or half an hour down the road.
If you're suffering from homesickness, just remember you're certainly not the only one!
Homesickness is quite a personal feeling that not everyone feels comfortable talking about. Those around you are probably feeling the burn too, but are just keeping schtum.
To give you a helping hand, we've put together our top tips for combating that longing for home, so you can concentrate on making the most of your uni years!
Ways to deal with homesickness
Don't give yourself a hard time
This is perhaps the most important message of all, so we've whacked it right at the top of the list.
Feeling homesick isn't a weakness, nor is it something you should beat yourself up about. Missing home is something that affects most students – you'll only make the situation worse if you think of it as something you should feel guilty about.
Don't spend too much time in your room
It might be tempting to treat your room as your own little safe haven, but staying in too much will only serve to make you feel worse.
Isolating yourself will make your feelings more intense, as you'll spend even more time thinking about what you miss from home.
Keep your expectations realistic
One of the biggest myths about university is that every day is a wild party, where you'll enjoy minimal responsibilities and get drunk most nights of the week.
It's easy to look at everyone else's Instagram and Snapchat stories and think you're not having as good of a time as they are, or that you're doing something wrong. But don't forget that social media just shows a superficial snapshot of what people's lives are actually like.
Try not to compare your uni experience to others, and don't expect every single day to be the best one of your life.
Bring home comforts
Whether it's your favourite teddy bear, or a rag of a blanket that your nan gave you when you were seven, we all have objects that cheer us up when we're not feeling our best.
Whatever your comfort things are, make sure you bring them to university with you. Don't be worried about the stick you'll get for having cuddly toys in your bedroom – chances are, your flatmates have theirs hidden away somewhere too!
Of course, this can be a lot easier said than done, but making a concerted effort to carry a positive attitude around with you will help you to combat homesickness in a major way.
Plan things into your day that you enjoy doing and can look forward to, whether it's socialising with friends or a nice hot bath and an episode of Bake Off.
Staying positive also makes you a pleasure to be around, so you'll probably find it much easier to make new friends (which also helps to keep homesickness at bay).
That said, if you are struggling, don't feel as though you can't tell people you're unhappy. Friends and professional organisations are always on hand to help.
Ask for help
The jump from school to university can be tough to get your head around at first, and there's no shame in asking for help. If you're having any issues with your course (or anything else for that matter) don't suffer in silence.
If you're feeling homesick, worrying about your studies or your finances will only make things worse, so take steps to sort any issues out or get support as soon as they arise.
As well as approaching your lecturers directly, you'll also find that universities have counselling services available too – use them, that's what they're there for!
Explore your surroundings
One of the main reasons we feel homesick is often to do with being in unfamiliar surroundings, so it's a great idea to set aside some time to explore your uni town or city so you'll feel more at home.
In fact, not getting to know their uni city better is one of the biggest regrets we've heard previous students cite when they graduate.
Go for walks, do some sightseeing, volunteer with the local community or just get to grips with what's available on your uni campus. You're only around for a few years, so now's the time to make the most of it!
Keep in touch (but not too much!)
Whether it's a phone call, a Whatsapp group chat or a letter in the post, keeping in touch with your friends and family helps to close that gap and make you feel more involved with things back home.
However, keeping in touch too much can actually make you feel the distance more! The trick is to not let it get to the stage where you're communicating with people back home more than you are with people at uni.
Remember, your friends and family will still be waiting for you back home during the holidays, so try to focus on the here and now at uni. You can go back and visit any time, but try not to go too close to the start of term, as it could make your homesickness worse.
When you're feeling rubbish it can be tempting to lie on the sofa watching rom-coms while crying into a massive tub of Ben and Jerry's, but this is likely to make you feel a lot worse.
Keeping healthy (and fighting off that freshers' flu) will keep you feeling much more positive about life.
Check out our list of low cost fitness ideas if you need some inspiration on how to keep fit and happy on a budget.
Remember there's always help out there. If you're struggling with your mental health there are services available at your university which are free to access.