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Student Accommodation

How to survive shared living

Flying the nest for university? You're about to enter a whole new world that requires a lot of patience and an open mind. We're here to help you through it!

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The reality of sharing a kitchen and bathroom with complete strangers for an entire year can be a lot to take in. How do you split the cleaning in a shared house? Who pays for toilet paper? Will you like everyone? Will they like you?

It's pretty important to figure out a way of dividing responsibility early on in your accommodation. That way, a standard is set before anything has a chance to go pear-shaped.

How to live with new housemates

  1. Get in sync with each other

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    At the risk of sounding like a complete bore, it's probably worth having a quick group conversation with your flatmates about your routines – particularly if you work weekends or have a particularly arduous course that means getting up at 7am every day.

    If you iron this stuff out at the start and get in sync with each other, you won't have to wait for a fall out over blaring tunes at 3am to make you more aware of each other.

  2. Respect personal space

    astronaut in spaceRemember that regardless of how much you get along with your flatmates, everyone needs their own personal space. Respect this.

    If your flatmate's door is closed, knock. If they spend a lot of time in their room, they probably value having their own space, so try not to bother them too much.

    Just try to read the situation as much as possible and don't impose on anyone who doesn't seem like they want to be imposed upon.

  3. Spend quality time together


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    Try to organise something social that involves everyone in the flat from time to time – arrange a movie night, make homemade pizzas together or have pre-drinks before going out to a club or party.

    Making the effort to socialise in a positive environment will make things way less frosty when it comes to discussing chores or someone not pulling their weight.

  4. Have some self-awareness

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    Maybe your parents were never that bothered about the fact you burp at the dinner table and like to walk about the house in your pants, but remember you're not living at home anymore!

    Try to be a bit more aware of your bad habits, and be considerate of those around you. It's about time you started shaking them off anyway!

Does anyone in your shared accommation suffer from any of the top 10 worst housemate habits?

Food shopping and cooking with housemates

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If the constant jibes from your parents about how students only eat baked beans and yesterday's pizza for breakfast haven't started yet, count yourself lucky – you've got three years of this to look forward to!

But whether the jokes come your way or not, don't adhere to the stereotype. Cooking is a central part of any household – even a student one.

If you're not so confident in the kitchen, we've got a great guide to basic cooking tips that'll help you cook up a storm and save some serious cash.

Not only will cooking at home help save you money, but you'll also get to know your flatmates a lot quicker if you occasionally cook and eat together.

How to split food and cooking

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There are lots of different cooking options involved in shared living. Some people prefer to fly solo and cook for themselves each night so they're in complete control of their weekly spending as well as their diet.

However, cooking collectively on a rotation is another option that can work quite well – even if it's just once or twice a week. One person can cook for the rest of the flatmates on one day, with this then rotating to the next person, and then the next, and so on.

Think of it as like a Come Dine With Me experience – minus the ratings and infamous "lessons in grace and decorum" rant.

You can also double up into pairs if there are a few mouths to feed, so one person isn't lumped with doing all of the cooking on their own. If you do go with this option, make sure the washing up is on a rotation too!

Whichever approach you take, it's always best to try and plan ahead for the week. This might sound dull, but this way you'll budget your food shop better and make sure you're having a varied diet.

Doing a food shop with your flatmates can make the whole process more fun. Food shopping online as a household can save money when it comes to buying in bulk and paying for delivery too!

Not quite Gordon Ramsay just yet? Never fear, we've got a whole section dedicated to cooking tricks and recipes.

Buying cleaning products, loo roll and kitchen staples

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No one can say they don't use the toilet roll, but how do you establish who pays for it?

Shopping for shared house essentials is important – not least to avoid a situation where you get up to use the loo at 3am, only to discover that someone's used the last of the toilet roll (even though you bought the last three packs!).

As with cooking, there are various ways to collaborate on the weekly shop. Although it obviously makes sense to shop for your own stuff the majority of the time, sometimes it can make sense (especially financially) to muck in together for certain items.

How to split buying household essentials

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Try making a list of basic essentials that everyone in the flat uses (washing up liquid, hand soap, bin bags, bog roll, cooking oil, etc.) and take turns at buying them.

Alternatively, you could have a house kitty that everyone contributes a couple of quid to each month, then use the cash to foot these essential items. Have a gander at what you could get by contributing just £5 a month.

It can be a good idea to have a note on the fridge indicating who bought what and when, otherwise arguments can arise out of everyone insisting they bought the last roll of bin bags!

On the subject of who bought what, if you've used something that is specifically somebody else's (e.g. milk or bread), always offer to replace it or pay them for however much you used. Or, better still, ask before you use it!

And if you find that you, and only you, are buying the loo roll, use our guide to making money from toilet roll to get some of your money back.

Make sure you check out our tips for saving cash at the supermarket, as well as our guide to doing your food shopping online.

Who does the washing up?

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Nobody enjoys doing the washing up. It's not often that we'll admit that the stereotype is right, but dirty dishes do have a tendency to pile up in a student house, and this can cause problems.

Passive-aggressive dish-related post-it notes in the kitchen are the norm in student houses, and we've even known disagreements to end with piles of dirty dishes being put in the bedrooms of lazy culprits – ouch!

In order to keep things as clean and amicable as possible, it's important to lay down the law early on. Oh yeah, and this means you have to stick to them too!

How to split the washing up

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You have two options here. The first is to just do your own dishes as necessary – an option that works fine as long as you do them straight away. Stacked dishes blocking the sink won’t make you too popular!

Alternatively, you could have a washing-up rota where you each take your turn to do them on a rotation. This can work quite well as it means nobody ever feels as though they're the only one chipping in.

However, problems can still arise if the level of washing up tends to vary. Maybe keep your super greasy pan dinners to the night when you're on dishes duty, just to make sure you don't annoy anyone!

Sharing out cleaning and household chores

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Setting a standard with chores can be difficult. Everyone has a different interpretation of what cleaning involves and how unclean something needs to be before it needs a good scrub!

You might not be bothered by the ball of hair clogging the shower drain, but that doesn't mean it doesn't make your flatmates want to hurl (it's one of the big gripes discussed in our freshers' week podcast).

Cleaning a student house can seem like a lot of work, but if everyone comes to some sort of agreement where it's split between you, it shouldn't be time-consuming or too much effort.

It'll certainly be less effort to split the tasks and do them regularly, as opposed to leaving it until The Big Clean that's required to get your deposit back.

It's also worth accepting early on that chores will never get split exactly equally, but if everyone at least pitches in there shouldn't be any hard feelings.

If you notice something in the house that's messy/dirty/disgusting/a health hazard, the simple solution is to do something about it instead of standing around moaning about it. After all, at least you don't live in Britain's biggest student house or this one which is the worst student house we've ever seen  – cleaning those must be a nightmare!

How to split the cleaning

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Establishing a system for chores can be a tough one, but luckily you've got a few options to choose from:

  1. Clean as a group when necessary It's less arduous if you're all cleaning in a big group and having a laugh, and it means no one can be accused of not pulling their weight (unless they repeatedly get caught napping during cleaning time, of course!)
  2. Have a household cleaning rota  So you might've guessed this by now, but we like rotas! This can be a great way to divide the cleaning equally, and if you make sure communal areas are cleaned once a week by someone on a rotation, it means nothing will ever get super dirty (meaning it shouldn't take too long to clean each time). It also means it's pretty clear when someone is slacking and doesn't do their bit. Have a list of all the stuff that needs to be done on the wall in the kitchen, as well as everyone's names where they can write the 'last cleaned' date next to it
  3. Clean up your own mess – This works ok in theory, but misses that fact that house-sharing inevitably involves cleaning up at least a little of other people's mess too. How exactly can you clean your hair, and your hair only, out of the drain?
  4. Get a cleaner This might sound like a mad expense, but a surprising number of student landlords or halls provide some kind of cleaner. Even if they don't, hiring one can be totally worth the expense if you find cleaning is causing arguments. The average hourly rate for a cleaner is roughly £10 – £15 an hour, depending on how long you leave between cleans (and how dirty your flat is!). If you get someone in once every two weeks and you're a house of five, that's likely to work out at less than a tenner each.

How to split bills with housemates

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This probably won't be an issue in your first year if you're in halls, as bills are included in your rent. But if you're living in a house without bills included, you're going to have to learn to divvy it all up and make sure everyone's paying their share.

There's a lot of different bills to think about: from water, gas and electric to broadbandTV and even council tax (although most students are exempt, some exceptions do apply).

There are a few different options for sharing bills between you and your housemates. However, a lot depends on how well you know the people you've moved in with, and how reliable and trustworthy you deem them to be.

Your two main options would be:

  1. One person takes charge of all the bills – So, one (very responsible) person will take charge of all bills, and collect the money each month. This is probably the most straightforward option, but it does rely on one person having enough money to cover the direct debits, as well as everyone stumping up the cash in time so they're not left out of pocket. A mobile payment app like Splitwise a good option for this, as you can send out a group message via the app saying how much is owed. The money can then easily be transferred through text (meaning it's also clear to everyone who has paid and who hasn't).
  2. Divide the bills amongst you all This option involves divvying out the bills amongst you so the responsibility isn't all lumped on one person. One person can deal with water, while another makes sure broadband is paid each month, and so on. You can even keep track of everything in a spreadsheet, as it shows clearly what's owed and what's been paid for everyone to see.

If you've ended up as the designated bill payer, but are having trouble collecting cash from those you live with, this can be a stressful situation to be in. We've got some advice on how to ask for your cash as painlessly as possible! 😉

Tip: sign up for your student bills using cashback websites to earn money back on energy and broadband.


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